Just had my first session with a DB counselor. Amazing. I realized just how I have been doing "affirmation" wrong and that I've been doing exactly what she expects - I'm too defensive in what little communication we do have. He also explained that a lot of her behavior can be explained as a reaction to the good things I've done - he said when my behavior conflicts with the justification she has in her head, she will try to push my buttons in order to provoke a defensive reaction in me. This will then restore her mental equilibrium by showing that I haven't changed.
Even if I don't save the marriage, I will come out of this a better person.
Last edited by lonelywolf; 10/09/0905:21 PM.
Me: 35 W: 31 D10, S7, S2, S11 months M: 11 years Tricked into separation. In Last Resort.
My story: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1800530#Post180053
