I don't understand how the 'fishbowl' analogy helps
Your wife and you are the "fish." You get to watch your history, current interactions, view yourself and her as a outside observer. Since you are not part of the bowl you can be detached and give yourself more objective and productive advice. Like you are watching a movie of your marriage. Make sense?
Yeah, it makes sense. Did it help you to detatch to where you weren't affected by her at all or what was going on in her life at all? What else helped you to do 'that' and to get 'there'?
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
