Since the OM has moved out of his house, she can now call him on the phone any time. She sneaked out to the garage one night while I was up in bed, so I suspect that she was talking to him. About what I have no idea.
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The roller coaster keeps on chuggin'...
Without boundaries you will continue to be on the rollercoaster. You are using religion as a reason you can't set boundaries. As a Catholic I can assure you that the Church and God both have boundaries. Do you think God made you to be disrespected and a doormat with your wife? Unconditional love does not preclude boundaries. It is actually very loving to have healthy boundaries.
Who's being the hypocrite here? Does you wife carrying on with another man go against your religious beliefs and personal values? What are you doing to enable it? Is the Nice Guy approach working? You hold the keys to getting out of the holding pattern. What happens if your wife decides to divorce you? Did you really put up a fight and make a stand for her? Or were you being passive and letting her feel it out? Is the OM being passive?
I understand you don't want to be in this position and that you are afraid of pushing her away. Confidence, decisiveness and strength is attractive. Disrespecting you hurts you, your marriage and your family. There is only one way out of limboland.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
