Hi Stuck, I read through all 24 pages of posts and I just have to say that I can totally relate. Our situations are very different, yet sadly, they are too much alike. My H walked out a year ago next week. Like your W, he blames me for his unhappiness. I'm just curious (if you don't mind sharing), how long have you been dealing with this?
Many of the things you posted, were exactly the way I have felt. Even though men and women seem to think totally different, your posts are proof positive that we often FEEL the same.
I have really struggled with detaching, but I think I'm finally at a place where it's become a teeny bit easier. I felt like I didn't have any other choice - my H was intentionally deceiving me, totally unwilling to talk about our future and totally unwilling to try counseling, going back to church, moving back home, etc... After a year of waiting for him, I finally said "ENOUGH" it's time to let him go. It is a daily struggle for me, but I'm doing okay.
Anyway, enough about me. I really just wanted to pop in and say that I understand and really hope that things work out so you are happy. You sound like a really nice guy and a great dad. So sorry you are going through this.
Me: 34 H: 34 DD: 3 M: 8 yrs H moved out Oct. 2008, "not happy" "don't know what I want" "will always love you, but not in love with you" PA Bomb: April 5, 2010
