Another view on detaching that helped me was to use the "fishbowl" analogy. View your sitch like you are a third party looking at your marriage from the outside looking in. The change of perspective helps.
I really like this way of looking at it. It's similar to my "you have to get into a place where you can play it as a game" concept.
Puppy
Could you help me out with this?
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
