Seriously, you need to quit with these feelings of anomosity against your X. Even tho you only post them here, they are in almost every post so don't even try for a nano-second say that you're over it, you're not. LET IT GO. Your X can carry all the anger and angst against you she wants as mine does. Guess what? I let mine go, and I'm not losing any sleep over the fact she hasn't. That's her choice to be infintile. I tell her I gave her what she wanted and can give no more and see no point in it. End of story.
As for as conversation with the kids: this should ahve been implimented A LONG, LONG time ago. You know the moment one of your kids talks about your X and OM or each individualy you're going get emotional. STOP THE CONVERSATION DEAD IN IT'S TRACKS BEFORE IT EVEN STARTS. The moment my S12 even starts, I in a tone say S12's name, hold up my hand and half the time I don't even have to say "stop". Boom, done. I think you've let yours go about this for far too long and now they feel it's okay, and guess what? They will use that to play the "mommy versus daddy" game to get what they want.
It's now going to take you quite some time to get them in the practice of knowing you don't want to hear about. You don't need to hear about. Why? What are you geting out of it? What are they getting out of it? But it needs to stop. For you, for them, and hell even for your X. Because soon those things you don't want to hear about, will then be conveyed by them upon your X an dit just might be the message from planet Earth to what ever planet WAS congregate on to signal a problem.
Capeche?
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
