I sometimes just want this over with. I am feeling better everyday that I am able to start moving on. It is just the going out till 3am while we are still together with our sons in the house just gets me fired up. She is still acting like she is 25....
What over with? The crisis or the marriage? This takes a long time. You need to reread the resources and get a better grasp on what you are dealing with.
Originally Posted By: d1adsl5a
What a selfish, selfish person.
Yep, that's all a part of it.My guess is that she hasn't always been this way and that you are forgetting what this mlc mess is all about.
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Now she wants to wait until after the holidays: Like January or February???
If this is what she wants so badly why do you think she is waiting? I think you need to remind yourself that anytime she feels pressure, guilt, or sees anger from you, you are going to receive a major shove from her.
She is acting like a crazy selfish teenager correct? If yes, then why are you taking everything she says as gospel? You need to take a few more steps back from her and stop buying into all her bs.
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It isn't like she is coming to my parents house for christmas. They can't stand her and she knows it....
Many people do not understand what truely happens to a person in crisis. Our loved ones see us hurting and it's natural for them to become upset and want it to stop.
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I have been keeping my cool for the most part. Being happy, walking away when she gets angry at me for no reason.
Good....That's what you should be doing, but it MUST be consistent. I can't stress enough how important that is.
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Sitting at dinner tonight and I got mad. I am resenting the hell out of her.
You must stay consistent. EVEN KEELED my friend. It's one of the hardest things you will ever have to do, but it's doable. MLC'ers have a super keen sense of picking up on this or anything else that is troubling you.. I have never understood why, but they can pick up on this like nobody's business.
Everytime you show her your anger it feeds her jacked up justification. She is not your wife of old right now. She is a selfish teenager. The faster you accept this the better off you will be. Stop expecting her to be any different right now.
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Tired of being the responsible parent while she acts like a school girl.
What other choice do you have? Do you want to start partying it up and acting like her?
Your children need you now like never before. Man up and embrace it.
