Hi everyone, I cant believe I'm doing this. My W and I have been married 20 years. I had a brief affair 4 years ago that resulted in a child. My A lasted about 3 1/2 months before I realized I loved my wife and broke it off and confessed to her. A short time later I found out the OW was pregnant. She asked me to come back but I said I was in love with my W and would not. My W knew everything and we agreed to work on our marriage. Everything was going great, appeared we put the past behind us but then she started asking all kinds of questions and started bringing up the A and the child. The mother of this child, the OW, has had a steady stream of boyfriends, one of which she is now engaged to and he plans on adopting the child. I was not put on the birth certificate nor have I been involved in this childs life in any way. This was by the OW design. My W now 4 years later served me with papers and is very angry. It appears she has now found someone and can only justify the filing by bringing up the past of 4 years ago. We have had some very good times since then and some troubled times but this came out of the blue. I believe the fact that she has been seeing someone behind my back has now made her blame me for everything that has happened. Is this normal? Does the blame game and anger from 4 years ago get WORSE with time or is this her way of legitimizing her affair. I Love her more than anything. She served me yesterday and could only bring up 4 years ago and wont address what she has been talking about. We just separated about a week ago. I hope this gets better and the pain goes away.
