No, it isn't a waste of time at all. Michele herself says that not all WAS come home. If you DB consistantly, especially by using the 'doing something different' technique and by getting your emotions under control then you stand a much better chance of reconciling with your spouse than if you carry on doing what was driving your spouse away. And if you employ all the GAL advice etc then whether or not you reconcile you are in a much healthier place. The key word is consistancy.

Out of all the people that have posted to me I know of 6 last summer alone that have reconciled. Two of them have never come aback and posted that they have.

Whether you view yourself as doomed before you start is I guess up to you. Sounds a bit like victim talk to me. But I truly could not have lived with myself if I hadn't tried everything possible to save my marriage and DB gave me the tools with which to do that.

Just my thoughts.


M- May 2006
D - Aug 2010
Now travelling the world