New to this Community seeking advice

[JR09]

Journaling.

Just got back from my TDY...10 hrs of driving. Tired. I did get to chat with my boys while driving home. They are doing good. I also left a voicemail for my W, but she didn't call back. It seems like she is not willing to talk for the past week. Maybe this is that hot/cold back and forth dance that is mentioned in this forum. I believe it is part of that ambivalence that she may be going through.

I am just assuming a lot here, but I couldn't help but try to analyze what's going on...I'm probably wrong anyways...Well, no idea what's going on. I tried my best to refocus on driving safely and remember the good conversation with my boys tonight. I really had to mentally force myself to not assume and speculate on why my W didn't want to talk. Took me a while, but I managed to do it.

During my TDY, I got to talk with a couple where the husband experienced the same symptoms as I did. His W was close to leaving but didn't. I asked her what her feelings were during their time of turmoil. I guess I was trying to get a better grip on my W's state of mind. I also talked with this W whose husband doesn't want to seek help even if he's going through the same stuff I went through. I asked this W what she's doing about it. I told her about my DBing techniques. I hope it will help a bit.

Patience and more patience...

JR