Past Limbo: Wife officially wants divorce

[ClingingToHope]

Eventually the bar thing will get old and she'll want the intimacy of a family. Of course, it may be way too late by then.

I'm facing the same thing except I've been out of the house for five months. My W never even considered a marriage encounter.

Of course, I've done a lousy job of keeping rule No. 1 (no pursuing). It seems like every two weeks I've made some kind of overture. After the last rebuff on Tuesday I actually feel better.

My W says the only reason she hasn't filed is money so I've spent the last two days researching low-cost divorces. Talking to attorneys confirmed the fact I'll do fine financially. W's arrogant attitude towards me the past two days is helping as well.

I'm no longer wondering what I'm missing, but instead wondering how we kept it together this long.

I'll have my downs but I finally realize this M is over and it's time to move on. I've indicated I'm willing to come a long way towards her and she's unwilling to move at all towards me. I still deep down believe she'll discover I wasn't the reason for her unhappiness and when the newness of being single wears off, she'll wonder what she's done.

But that's for another day.

There are better times ahead for you. Trust me.