Your H needs to get his a$$ to counseling now. He is not fully aware of the damage he is doing to himself and to his family. He may have an Old School mentality about this i.e. "real men learn to deal with their own problems" but it is B.S. I know because I have been there and I thought that same way for a long time!
There is nothing wrong about seeing a professional for a "second opinion" (the first opinion would be your H's) for his issues. This is NOT a sign of weakness... if anything it takes a bigger man to acknowledge that he needs help for something he can't deal with all by himself. If for nothing else, your H should do this for the sake of his 5 year old son!
He has demonstrated to you time and again that he is a talented man and fantastic provider for you and your son and for that you are very proud of him. Not addressing this problem runs contrary to his commitment to his family and high standards. This problem is impacting his productivity, his work product, his health and destroying his family. He can't reconcile this chaos with the man who he is and the standards he lives up to. HE CAN'T!
If he doesn't want to talk to an anonymous person- fine, I understand. So how about this: print this post out and stick it under his nose to read. Then, if he wants to argue with what I have written, have him scribble a reply back for you to post. And then I'll reply.
How do you like those bananas?
M: 41 W: 39 S: 11 S: 10 D: 4 1st contact w/OM: 1/19/09 EA began: 2/14/09 EA discovered: 3/1/09 I file for D 8/25/09 to protect myself _______________________________
