I believe that unless you both figure out what exactly made her cross the line to begin with, you will always wonder if she will do it again. Before, you both probably thought that was impossible for her to even DO it...now, you know it is possible and need to know what caused it. I think some counseling or retrouvaille or a candid discussion about it eventually will be in order....when that should happen, I don't know, but until then you will constantly worry whenever she does ANYTHING with someone of the opposite sex. I think you feel like you already know, but have you two actually discussed it, and then came up with a resolution or change that will be made?
I know what caused me to have an affair. My H and I have talked about it, but not as much as we should, and we are gliding on that easy/feel good time together, but we really need to delve into this soon.....He, unlike you, is not worried about me....I'M more worried about me......
But, back to what Puppy said....anything you say about that guy will look like jealousy now because of the lack of real discussion about causes, etc,
