Frank I want to remind you of two things from a while ago. : )
1 - I don't care about the reasons...You a warrior or a paper pushing desk jockey? Man or mouse.
2 - F you Jack
Gratis - 3 - Stop telling me about why she is who she is. Start telling us how Frank is becoming Frank.
Ok,
This morning we were at the High School counselors office with D14 to see what we could do to get her homework done in a timely manner and deal with all the other issues. It was mostly a waste of time. The counselor was easily intimidated and would not press any issues. D14 was uncomfortable and STBX was sometimes teary-eyed.
I finally came up with some ideas to help D14 track her time, make sure homework was submitted instead of 'forgotten'.
I placated counselor and STBX and agreed to a doctors visit to see if she has any hormone / glandular / or other chemical imbalances. STBX says she has been giving her 'supplements' to help her with her depression. Personally I think she's just acting out because she is angry at her mother. I never have any issues with her, she's always happy around me.
So yeah, I took the leadership position and calmly found some solutions.
After the meeting STBX and I spoke outside. I took the action items that were needed to get D14 some folders and other stuff to track her homework better. STBX went on to tell me she thinks D14 is depressed because she misses our dog Diamond and of course, she doesn't want us to be divorced. She went on to add that D14 told her that she felt like it was D14's fault that she couldn't fix this.
I didn't say anything. Then STBX starts to cry again. I calmly asked her what's up, what's hurting her. She then told me how she misses Skylar (our beagle). Now, I have never tried to stop her or D14 from taking him whenever they want. He has been on a couple 'overnights' about 2 months ago.
So I said this to her "Well why don't you take him sometimes? He loves the attention he gets and it's good for all of us"
She didn't reply. I told her I would take care of the items on my 'to do' list and said goodbye.
D14 came home after school and I had the things she needed to help her with her homework organization. I taled to her briefly about the meeting, mostly to let her know that I think the plan we have is a good one and it'll work out.
In the middle of this convo, she says that she'd feel a lot better if she didn't have to deal with her moms emotional outbursts at the condo. STBX cries a lot, and has a lot of hurt. Then she says that they went to the animal shelter the other day looking for a small dog to keep at the condo.
I said 'why would you do that when Skylar would love to spend time with you?' and her response was "I don't know, mom has been whining about how she is so lonely at the condo and she wants a pet". We already have Skylar (beagle) Captain (African Grey bird) and Mischeif (Green Conure Bird).
I do nothing to stop her from having them at her place. I encourage it actually.
D14 gos on to say that they saw a golden retriever at the shelter whose owner was killed in a bike accident, that they would have loved to adopt, but it couldn't live in a condo - and would I be willing to let it live here.
I also said to D14 that she should take Skylar over to STBX condo so he can get spoiled, rather than get another dog.
