Confronting the OM's W - pros & cons

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After finding condoms in my W's glove compartment this morning, I'm really considering contacting OM and OM's W.

Etrain, my heart goes out to you. It really does - so sorry that you have to be here but you're in the right place.

Expose.

Tell OMW what you found. Do so calmly, factually and without expressing too much emotion.

She will be in a state of numb shock and disbelief. You need to do it. If I were you I would email or mail any correspondence between your W and OM to her so that she is left in no doubt.

Remember Rule #1 - ALL CHEATERS LIE and it comes as natural to them as breathing an going to the toilet. You will harldy ever get them to admit an affair unless they're confronted with incontrovertible evidence that it's ongoing. Condoms in a glove compartment would not qualify. Intercepting correspondence referring to sexual acts is. This is what you ideally need to send to OMW if at all possible.

Don't warn your W or OM about it.

Just do it. The affair will begin a natural demise from when you expose and OMW has the right to know the truth, even if, and especially if it's an unpleasant truth.

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