The EA/PA - Should LBS proactively address it?

[Arwen_in_NJ]

Today, I have no marriage anyway because she is not actively engaging in it. She is like a stranger to me in my house now.

Welcome to the world of MLC. It's not called a roller coaster for nothing! It is all about her right now- what she wants, what she feels. She will do an amazing amount of rationalizing to justify what she wants and feels. If you are gauging whether or not your M can be saved by what she is saying/doing NOW, you are on the sure road to D. What she says & does NOW may have no relation to what she says & does 6 months from now. As has been said here before "believe none of what she says, and only half of what she does".

The best thing you can do is detach, work on yourself, and let her life go as it will. YOU need to be the best person you can be for YOU. That person will be very healthy and attractive- she may come back, she may not. In any case, you will be a better person for it....