Hope and heartache

[ClingingToHope]

The collaborative divorce approach is interesting. We'd each have to come up with a $1,500 or $2,000 retainer -- although up front costs are negotiable.

Then we'd have to sign an agreement that we would be open and honest about all of the finances and such and that we'll work together for a complete agreement.

The lawyer I talked to said it takes between four and eight sessions to cover and sign off on everything and then when it's done it's filed.

The key here is, unlike mediation, each side has an attorney looking out for their interests so one person doesn't feel they are getting bullied by the other side because of superior knowledge.

This will cover BillClay's issues of being too lenient. My W is going to end up owing me a big chunk of money -- I don't think she realizes this -- I'd definitely be willing to lower it for lower child support payments and more time with the kids.

Secondly, it puts the onus squarely on W's shoulders. This is what she wants. I'm offering to help her get there. If you love someone, set them free.