It's caring about their needs and emotions while simultaneously realizing that you are a perfectly valid (not perfect; valid) human being with or without them, their love, their, cooperation, or their approval.
One of the things my wife (Greek) told me that has stuck with me is that, "God didn't put me on this earth to be your wife, he put me here to be the best Greek I can be."
Kinda of the Ying-Yang symbol, complement each not complete each other. Once you see the other as a unique person it helps with the differentiation. Where you stop and they start.
Yep. Or, as Rocky said, about his relationship with 'Yo Adrian': "I dunno, she's got gaps, I got gaps, together we fill gaps."
