Still here......

[optimistwife]

Hi Belle,
so sorry again you are going through this. You've got some great advice in the prior posts. They more eloquently sum up what finally worked in my marriage.

You've wanted this to work for so long...

You husband NEEDs to be the one to meet you in the middle. It is hard hard work and he needs to man up! You can't do it for him, you can guilt him into it, or even pray him into it. HE has to do it. And he may never get there... And if he can't, he can never be the husband that you need and deserve!

This is why you are filing, and moving on. I am sure he is miserable, my husband was too. But only HE can change his misery.

I hope God does grace him with the ability to move forward in his life, but he has to be open to receiving that grace. It doesn't sound like he is yet.

My heart goes out to you. Stay strong!