slow down. slow down. I have been where you are and still am sometimes. I am six months into this mess. I sleep on the couch. It is better for me as well. I do take some antianxiety medication and a little ambien at night. It helps with the not thinking about it as much when you go to sleep. Not being in the same bed with my wife also helps me with the sleep.
The emotion comes on like a wave. It hits you in the gut, you can't concentrate at work. You are moody at home, can't "be there" with your kids. It sucks. But in a few more months it will get better.
I thought about gps, private investigator, everything. You know what, I can't control her actions. If she is going to do it, then she will. I can't stop it anyway. Not checking the phone records, emails, facebook helped with my transition. Actually on Sunday, my wife actually said she is cancelling retrouville(marriage encounter weekend) and she wants a divorce. I cried alot on sunday, some on monday. It is thursday now and I actually feel better. No more pressure on acting a certain way, saying things a certain way. It has been like a cloud has been lifted for me. I am more relaxed. Made an appointment with an attorney. The opposite has actually happened to her. She is more irritable, not happy, etc..
Not sure what will happen one way or the other, but that detachment part took a giant step forward for me.
Easier for me to say for me right now. You still are in the begining. You will just have to go through the stages. Find some good friends that don't mind listening to you talk about things...
I workout everyday. Doing fun things with my sons. Whatever you can do to get your mind off it for a little while.
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