Thanks for the support. It sounds like you and I have many things in common like length of marriage, WAW age.
I do have the DR book but I did not at first. I wish I would have gotten that book first, it would have saved from some of mistakes ie cheeseless tunnels.
In fact I wish I would have paid more attention to my relationship before it was gone. I know how it could have been, because it was that way just 3 years ago. I love my wife and I know I will eventually thrive if we were to get divorced but I do not want that for my family. I think of the holidays and how they would be altered, dad and mom every other year, grandchildren with too many grandparents, step relatives etc. I know this life and because my parents were not good partners, I did not have the knowledge I need to sustain a good marriage.
I always new that marriage is work, but unless you know what to work on you might think arguing is the work and not the love. The love is the work - you need to work at loving your spouse, this is the work that gets put aside when life gets busy. This is the fun work, its the planning to be with each other, the appreciation, the acceptance, the freindship.
