People are who they are. In the case of my XW, that means a person who couldn't remain faithful, who couldn't tell me what she wanted,
Until you know yourself how can you tell someone else, & how could you expect someone else to know you
who couldn't tell me how unhappy she was,
Once she does the soul searching she will realize the unhappiness was within herself, & no man could make her happy & that it was unfair to ask you to
and ultimately someone who probably doesn't have the skills (right now) to make a long term relationship work.
Because we were never taught that as children look @ our parent’s relationship it’s probably just as bad as ours
As much as I love her, I can't change that. She has to change that. So I've had to let go, admitting to myself that as much as I tried to convince myself it should be great, it never will be because she isn't who I made her out to be
And the reason she left is because you weren’t who she made you out to be, but (in her mind) the OM is like you were at some point
So I understand why you feel the need to belabor your point, but I hope you can also see why it doesn't do any good to cling to one particular view of reality. There is no reality it’s what you see & how that make you feel & what I see & how that make me feel my truth & your truth
If it’s abuse it’s abuse, because that is how I see it, but what if it is just neglect?
In your next relationship, whether in a restored marriage or with someone new, everything is going to be different anyway.
Yes it will be because I will not try to save another person or get serious with some who has not worked on or through their own issues
WAW 32 ME 38 D11, S9 & D2 Together 10/96 Married 4/2000 Bomb 4/2006 PA1 9/2006 PA2 11/2006 I now know I want out, With my Kids!!!
