She does not turn to me for support?

[lonelywolf]

Work on yourself.

I am in a somewhat similar situation, in that my wife was always a different person around her parents. I've come to realize she always saw herself as their daughter first, and my spouse third (being a mother was second).

There's not much you can do when they have an enabler or someone like that who causes shifts in behavior. Fix yourself first - that's what I'm trying to do. It's helping - I'm actually calmer and more relaxed despite this crazy divorce business.