Die is just a nick name. It does not mean anything. Thanks for the advice. I hope you respond to me again, i like hearing the success story. Give me advise on the positive things you did. The nicer I am and the more independent I become the angrier my H gets. I am totaly involved with my kids and having my H only visit them doesn't give me much time for myself. Things are going to change in the future where he will be taking them(a day I can not stand to think of) and I will have time to myself. Please find me and offer me some advice. things that you did to get your W to notice. My h and the OW are in love and planning a future. How do you compete with that? Please help!