What to do, what to do?

[LuLu]

Dusk- That's my problem, I talk too much. Need to learn to shut up.

Another chapter in my saga has developed. I made plans for Saturday night (10 yr anniversary) with a girlfriend. We were going out on the town together and I was going to stay at her place that night. Kids are going to be at Grandma's. Well latest development... H and I are going to go out that night. It was kind of awkward how it all came about. But we've decided to see how it goes that night with just the two of us and no kids.

H called this morning and we were talking about the weekend schedule with the kids. He mentioned a ball game he was going to of my alma mater. I joked and said that he should gift me his tickets (it's on our anniversary). Next thing you know, anniversary talk. He asked me what I wanted to do about it (which seems to be the trend with him) and then mentioned that he thought I was done with the R (from my last "eruption"). I told him I was confused. He asked if I wanted to do something for our anniversary in an unsure, unexcited way. I told him, I'd have to think about it and then later said yes, we should see how it goes. If it wasn't our anniversary, I would have loved to decline the invite.

He asked me if I was taking the kids to Grandma's for a sleepover because I had been hoping all along that we would get together for our anniversary. I told him truthfully, I had no expectations but I knew I did not want to spend the night alone. He asked me what my plans were I told him out with a girlfriend and spending the night at her place. He asked if he knew my friend I told him no. He also asked where we were going to go. Our plans were to go to some fun places to have a few drinks and get hit on but I spared that part. I did tell him where we were going and that was enough to get the picture.

He called back an hour ago and asked me if I decided. I thought I had already decided but maybe I wasn't clear. I told him, yes, let's go out. He mentioned Monday night as possibly being a better option so we can all go as a family. I declined that option and said let's do Saturday. Of course, here's me thinking... Is he trying to back out? I asked him, "if you aren't comfortable with this than we can do it another time". He said, no, he would be fine. I'm pretty sure that I should have kept my mouth shut right there. I can't figure out if it's my need to rescue people or me trying to take control. I don't know.

Anyway the plan for now is to go to an Ale House for dinner. They've got lots of tv's, pool tables and darts. I thought that would be a good place since we can do things instead of sitting across from each other all awkward.

I don't get a warm and fuzzy from all of this but that's probably me mind reading again. My H is never one to take charge in relationships. He always seems the type to go along for the ride (with women at least). Is this once again the case of me taking charge?

Any opinions or tips on all of this? Should I not go out with him and go out with my GF instead?