"We are talking about peoples feelings and when someone feels neglected enough by not getting their own specific needs from their relationship with someone, they then would become to feel abused as a result of that constant neglect. "
This is where we differ, it all comes down to intent if our spouse feels abused because we neglected to do something and it was an honest mistake it is not abuse no matter how many times it happens, I have done this many times (lord knows I’m not perfect) at my job, with my kids, friends, family & have it happen to me as well with what you are saying you are telling me I am abused & is abusive
With that being said you have abused & have been abused by your ex & they have done that to you as well. So everyone here has been or is abused and abusive at some point in their lives
Which means in your next relationship you will be abusive and abused…. My point is when do we stop and say maybe this isn’t abuse maybe just neglect, (I can’t believe every single WAS spouse married an abuser, some have, but most was just a miss reading the intent of the so called abuser) maybe our spouse had something else on their mind & that thier whole world doesn’t revolve around me, otherwise abuse will be found every where
WAW 32 ME 38 D11, S9 & D2 Together 10/96 Married 4/2000 Bomb 4/2006 PA1 9/2006 PA2 11/2006 I now know I want out, With my Kids!!!
