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Well, don't do that or anything along those lines again.

An, "I'm sorry you're angry, I was making a gift for D. It won't happen again" if it comes up again is all you need to say.

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Yes what Grace said is all you have to say.

And if you do still have the pictures, you can make D's gift and give it to her still. Then W will know without you doing anything more than your original intent anyway.

AYK,

We all learn, remember, process differently and if she finds your box, well, she does. Her feelings, whatever they may be are her feelings. No matter what you say to explain yourself right now, is not going to have any affect on what she shows you on the outside.

We have all done things we now wish maybe we hadn't or had done differently. The past cannot be changed but the future can.

By starting in the present.

And yes, you listen to your heart and then you sort out what it says, make sure you are not acting from anxiousness, anger, fear, retaliation, nothing negative. Then you screen the words because anything too nice will also be perceived as fake or manipulative right now, and then you act.

Your heart is your guide but head is your compass right now.



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Quote:

WWJ3BD


ROFLMAO
I'm getting that for my license plates!

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I thought about reminding her of giving the dogs they're heartworm pills, I think I'm going to wait until next month.


Why? Is she not capable of remembering? Mabe she needs to be reminded to feed the kids too? Who knows what else she might have forgotten?

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What I was going to do was make a colage for her and my D.


"Too little, too late."
I have money on you hearing that one.

And Memeory Lane is one of the last places an MLCer wants you picking the destination of.



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If you let your heart drive, you're going over a cliff.



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Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans

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Both Grace and Cat are absolutely correct...

Let yor heart guide you...but its your logic that needs to be in control.

Your heart will get you all stupified and in trouble if you don't have some sort of leash on it.

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Think of it like this.

To the MLCer...you...the LBS...are a stalker.



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Wow there Jack_Three_Posts


One more would tie a record by many....

Jack, Phil, etc......


How are ya ?

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From wife:Looks like practice has been cancelled. You get to do something fun with the kids. Let me know what time you want them, I will get homework and such done before you get them.

My response back:Between 5:45 or 6? D knows all but last 3 or 4 answers for science study guide were emailed to her. If homework’s not done that’s ok S might have a test tomorrow I could quiz him on. Thanks

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I'm doing good smartass.

I post in a similar style to the poster...it's called empathy.



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Ok well maybe when all this started that was the bit of advise I needed right off the bat.

Because i can see now, why i got my butt handed to me so many times so far in the last 4 months,i've manipulated,popped in,cryed,begged,lied,controlled,etc.

But now that I know that all along i'm a stalker to her. I would've disappeared like no ones business.

That one is easy to relate too thanks for that info.
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Originally Posted By: Jack_Three_Beans
I'm doing good smartass.

I post in a similar style to the poster...it's called empathy.



LMAO......flattery you say ?

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