Feel free to tell him about me if you'd like- I'll correspond with him here if it would help your sitch. I will tell you that it might have made a difference in my current sitch if I had realized and addressed my spell of depression rather than it resolving itself after I left my old job.
BJ, that is so kind of you. H is a man that cannot admit a problem to his closest family or friends. He didn't even tell his family we were separated until recently - which is six months after he left. No way would he talk to an anonymous person. I wish to god he would! I appreciate your kind words they are helping to get me through this difficult time.
I know he has a horrible time admitting whatever he is going through - but he blames it on me and my presence. SEe below...any advice? I could use a male perspective here.
Last night he flipped out- burst into my room, blasted me, then stormed off and slammed the door "there will be no discussing this - you have to behave." My old cat had been in another home because he peed on the carpet years ago - but had to return recently. H started peeing on the carpet again. H threatened everything under the sun - I'm living the high life while he slaves away to pay for a house I am ruining. Meanwhile calling me crazy, a nutjob, dumb, etc.
I know he is panicked about the house, the separation, money, it's obvious why he's been so edgy. But he started saying he would have to sell the house and my son overheard - it was awful - how irresponsible I am and can't take care of "his only investment" so H wants to sell the house so he can buy his own condo while the markets are low - he's afraid that if he waits until a D is final, he won't be able to afford one.
I blew it. I'm supposed to stay calme. I did everything that makes things worse - I followed him into his office and wanted to talk things out. This enraged him more.
H said that if I want the arrangement where H comes to our place to stay with our son, I have to be gone the nights he's here - he said I should stay at his place "to see how it feels". He said he can't relax or feel like he has space in the house when I'm here, even if I'm just in my room with the door shut.
H is being completely unreasonable and enraged - as usual - and upping the stakes on me. I do not want my five year old staying someplace else until / if we finalize a D. He is too small and it would upset him way too much. But I don't want to be shoved out of my home because my H can't handle his feelings.
