Trying to save my M. W not really trying though.

[Ready2Change]

Okay, so do I contact the OM or the OM's wife? I want to expose this A because I honestly can not remain married to my W if this is going on behind my back.

This is a choice you will have to make.

What are your intention? Is it to save M? If you contact OM's wife, she kicks him out, who does he go to?

Any reason to get more "victim triangles" started?

I feel this is between you and W. The less people involved the better. Deal with the A with your W. The issues are between you and her. LISTEN to her and LEARN. LEARN and change. IF not for this relationship, the next.......