If it was an A, have you answered all his questions? Has he asked questions? Are there lies you've told that need to be disclosed? Does he fully understand why it happened? Has he expressed his feelings to you?
Your situation sounds a little glossed over. Most affairs are secretive and cruel, full of lies and rewriting of maritial history. As a betrayed spouse, I have many lingering questions about specific things that happened, what she was thinking, things that happened, why she did what she did, etc. I get along fine with my ex, but I don't trust her and I've learned to assume she's lying until I can verify it.
If my ex came to me and disclosed everything - real transparency with real insight into the 'why's' of it all, details, etc, I'd be more inclined to take her efforts to reconcile more serious.
Not sure if this is applicable to you, but the looking attractive part is nice as a tactic. I'd want some assurance I'm not going to get hurt again which only comes from insight and demonstration of honesty, transparency and love. He may be cold to you because he doesn't trust you.
Last edited by seeking sanity; 10/08/0904:43 PM.
I don't care, then I do, then I don't, then I do... la de da
