A couple of questions to all the WAS

[alexjadams]

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Neglect from Dictonary.com
1. to pay no attention or too little attention to; disregard or slight: The public neglected his genius for many years.
2. to be remiss in the care or treatment of: to neglect one's family; to neglect one's appearance.
3. to omit, through indifference or carelessness: to neglect to reply to an invitation.
4. to fail to carry out or perform (orders, duties, etc.): to neglect the household chores.
5. to fail to take or use: to neglect no precaution.

To me this word doesn’t mean abuse

From Dictionary.com
1. to use wrongly or improperly; misuse: to abuse one's authority.
2. to treat in a harmful, injurious, or offensive way: to abuse a horse; to abuse one's eyesight.
3. to speak insultingly, harshly, and unjustly to or about; revile; malign.
4. to commit sexual assault upon.
5. Obsolete. to deceive or mislead.
–noun
6. wrong or improper use; misuse: the abuse of privileges.
7. harshly or coarsely insulting language: The officer heaped abuse on his men.
8. bad or improper treatment; maltreatment: The child was subjected to cruel abuse.
9. a corrupt or improper practice or custom: the abuses of a totalitarian regime.
10. rape or sexual assault.
11. Obsolete. DECEPTION.


Abuse seems to me…
having intentions to abuse, neglect seems to be to me to do or not do something with not having direct intentions to cause pain or abuse

If I forgot to pick up my wifes’ dry cleaning because I had my issue at work on my mind & drove straight home that’s neglect
If I did the same thing with the intentions of not doing anything at all for my wife that’s mean & abusive

But I can see how my wife would think I was being abusive but I most of us just found out what was going on in our spouses mind when they did what they did and that the hurt us we would find it really had nothing to do with us & that they had something else going on or their mind was elsewhere

It isn’t us that assume that our spouse has done it on purpose & we know most of them don’t do it on purpose

Their mind is just elsewhere at the time