Not sure if you've had any unprotected sex with her in the past several months, but if you have, you should probably go get a full-panel STD test done on yourself, to be safe.
BTW, OM IS in town. I called W's work and asked for him. They couldn't track him down because it's a huge office but the receptionist said she's pretty sure he's in today. Yeah, they probably had sex last night. Possibly even in our own bed since the fancy restaurant W called is only about 2 minutes away.
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
So right now, she can look at our phone usage but I can't. I can't even look at my own, which is ridiculous.
time for eblaster!
If she knows he can't access her cellphone, I suspect almost everything is on there, and not the home computer. But it might help you capture the cellphone username/password, to get access to the online billing? Or is that what you're suggesting, Steve?
Any source that she does NOT think E can get to, is likely to be a treasure trove of intel.
Not sure if you've had any unprotected sex with her in the past several months, but if you have, you should probably go get a full-panel STD test done on yourself, to be safe.
I'm sorry.
Puppy
Not since mid-July, I think. My God, this is horrible!
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
BTW, OM IS in town. I called W's work and asked for him. They couldn't track him down because it's a huge office but the receptionist said she's pretty sure he's in today. Yeah, they probably had sex last night. Possibly even in our own bed since the fancy restaurant W called is only about 2 minutes away.
Where were you last nite? I don't remember.
btw, if you want to have some fun with this (and you do have to, occasionally, or else you'll go nuts), here's a great alternative to "confronting" OM. I did this.
When you see him, walk straight towards him, looking him dead in the eye. Then, when you get about six or eight feet away from him . . . WINK at him, and grin. Then walk away.
Not sure if you've had any unprotected sex with her in the past several months, but if you have, you should probably go get a full-panel STD test done on yourself, to be safe.
I'm sorry.
Puppy
Not since mid-July, I think. My God, this is horrible!
I know, and I'm sorry to bring this stuff up, but I'm not telling you anything your own doctor wouldn't be telling you. Since you don't know how long the affair has been going on, I would suggest you get tested.
E, someone told me early on that "the sex isn't the worst part -- the disrespect is." I NEVER believed that. Because when I had MY first day, like you are now, it was all-consuming, as all I could think about was them together. But over time, I found that the DECEIT was worse than the sex, and the DISRESPECT -- to me, to our kids, to my mother-in-law and father-in-law -- WAS the worst part.
The pain of today WILL subside. It's okay to allow yourself to feel it for awhile . . . just DON'T make any DECISIONS based on it, okay?
Took my S to my family's house for dinner & a visit. I don't know that I'll ever get the chance to confront OM face to face. He lives out of state & only travels here for business occasionally. I've never met him & never even heard his name before...until I found the email exchange a couple weeks ago.
Me-39 W-31 S-4 Bomb- 9/5/09 Discovered EA- 9/15/09 Found "proof" that EA is most likely a PA- 10/8/09 W moved out 10/31/09
Took my S to my family's house for dinner & a visit. I don't know that I'll ever get the chance to confront OM face to face. He lives out of state & only travels here for business occasionally. I've never met him & never even heard his name before...until I found the email exchange a couple weeks ago.
Does the switchboard operator know your voice? If not, call their office there, in your town, while he's here, and tell them you want to leave a message for him. Don't give your name. Say "It's imperative that I speak to him, immediately. Can he be paged? I'll hold. If I have to hang up, I'll just come by in about an hour, and try to see him in person."
And then of course hang up when they put you on hold.
Your wife then won't be the only one throwing up today.
if she is going to stay in the house, you might as well start monitoring whatever you can within that house. i.e. computer usage, get access to the online billing, who is coming and going and what is being said when you are not there. can find out what has been done or typed in the past, but there is no reason you shouldnt start now.
they could very well be doing this through their work computers. that would be incredibly stupid but more than likely possible.
