Took my S to my family's house for dinner & a visit. I don't know that I'll ever get the chance to confront OM face to face. He lives out of state & only travels here for business occasionally. I've never met him & never even heard his name before...until I found the email exchange a couple weeks ago.
Does the switchboard operator know your voice? If not, call their office there, in your town, while he's here, and tell them you want to leave a message for him. Don't give your name. Say "It's imperative that I speak to him, immediately. Can he be paged? I'll hold. If I have to hang up, I'll just come by in about an hour, and try to see him in person."
And then of course hang up when they put you on hold.
Your wife then won't be the only one throwing up today.