Is my wife a WAW or is this a MLC? thx2brs

[Mach1]

AYK,

After everything that you have read....What do YOU think your response should be ?

Whatever it is....Clear, Concise, Communication should rule.

I'm thinking that would be a 180 for EITHER of you...

Keep it to your wants, and what is best for your time with the kids...

DON'T try to fix things...

Remember that this is a week away....

Once again, this is your journey.....

I could ( or any of us here) could write your response to her, but then you wouldn't own those words would you ?

That is what matters....You owning who you become.

I really don't think Jack wants to be sitting at dinner 10 years down the road , and have you call him to ask what you should tell your spouse about something she said to you....

That is why it is inperative for YOU to do this work for YOU....

Then whatever comes up, you can pull that from deep inside of you, and actually BE that person instead of wondering WWJ3BD...

Patience and introspect are hard to build, but totally necessary through a MLC ...

And IF, IF you can get off the wheel and find YOUR balance and center, you will actually BE the person that can not worry about the eggshells, and act from a better place.

Your actions are actually an external display of what is inside of you...



Drew....Don't apologize for your words....you learn advice by giving and receiving it....

What you think is correct, the way you present it needs some fine-tuning.....

Yes, you do need to care what they think, but not to the point that it paralyzes you.

There is a fine line between reality and being an a$$...

[Grace_O]

ayk,

Keeping it simple and business like doesn't mean being curt.

You have plenty of time to respond to her, it isn't until next week.

Breathe.

[are you kidding]

I just need to quit following my heart, but I need to follow my heart.

Until I learn how to communicate efficately,I'm going to put how i should respond...in my words of course.

i just don't want a repeat of the last couple of months, I have really messed up.

just going to email back, Ok Great.

[are you kidding]

i'm don't want to thank her for too much, i was over gracious to everyone in my past.

I'm done playing a victim with people and really trying to thrive.

[are you kidding]

Monday,Tuesday,Friday, report cards.Great and OK.

[are you kidding]

I know when report cards are coming out, she's just trying to be a responsible parent and doesn't think I know. Best not to be an a$$ and say I know when cards are coming out.

[are you kidding]

She used to have to tell me.

[Grace_O]

So if/when the opportunity presents itself in the future and she doesn't tell you about something (like report cards) and you know, ask for them. It will show you looked into it. Don't say it.

[are you kidding]

Grace,

I thought about reminding her of giving the dogs they're heartworm pills, I think I'm going to wait until next month.

I need to put sometime away from her and showing her what I know.

You guys have no idea how many notes and mental notes,I took over the years as to what bothered her and what her likes used to be. Hopefully she won't find my treasure box anytime soon, I had all kinds of cheat sheets, like water these plants,favorite flower, favorite color, favorite childhood memories.

If i didn't write them down,I'd forget them.

[are you kidding]

She's furious that a couple wks ago i had borrowed her yr books for an evening. All I did was scan her yr book pictures.

What I was going to do was make a colage for her and my D.

I was going to frame their freshman pictures all thru, H.S. you know it was going to be like a 4 yr Xmas present.

She thinks it was for something else.