I can't cut off her cell phone. She's the main account holder & writes out the bills. I don't even have access to see our phone usage because it's all under her name & she has the billing code. So right now, she can look at our phone usage but I can't. I can't even look at my own, which is ridiculous.
OK, fair enough. There'll be time to re-visit this in a few days, or even next week. For now, just let me ask you this:
Are your family's financial needs being met, or are any bills going unpaid?
When we address this, just know that we'll be doing it for YOU, and your self-respect, more than we'll be doing it for any tactical reasons. Because even if you could cut it off -- like I did with my wife -- she'll have her own line back up and running within two or three hours, as a cheater's cellphone is like their crack pipe. But YOU begin to feel better as you know you're no longer allowing your family's finances to be used to enable her affair.
