my W doesn't regret her affair

[antlers]

I believe that very thing. But the other party has to believe that too, in order for it to happen. If they don't...still doesn't change my belief.

Thanks antlers. I think one party can lead the other a long way toward healing, and hopefully the other will eventually join in.

I don't disagree with that, either! I do believe it's possible. One party can certainly change the dynamics of the relationship all by themselves.