Trying to cope with H, IA/EA (was Newbie-1st post)

[Faith2010]

After session with IC yesterday, had a talk with H last night. Explained to H I need access to the phone bill to ensure there is no contact with OW. H refused. I told H I did not trust him and I know of no other way to rebuild trust unless I know contact has stopped. H said he doesn't trust me either and I shouldn't "check up" on him. H has not removed OW from FB, e-mail etc... and said "it's no big deal".

I also explained to H there are to be no secrets in our M and it would have to go back to the way it was in that respect (access to each other's phones, e-mails etc...) Told H I would not compromise on that. Told H I am tired of being disrepected and will no longer tolerate it.

It is so frustrating to talk to H because he is so unreasonable. He has an excuse for everything and tries to turn things around on me. It's lie after lie.

Again, I told him he needed to leave if he can not be open with me with respect to OW etc... I told him he can have until this weekend to find somewhere to go.

I feel I have no other choice. I can not live with the man I married, who is supposed to be my husband and love me, when he continues to be dishonest and cheats. What kind of example is that for my son?