Trying to save my M. W not really trying though.

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Who pays for her cellphone?

I guess we both do. We're on the same cell phone account...family plan...and it's paid out of our joint checking account. Just happens to be under her name since we used her employer's discount.

Do you think it's right to use your family's funds on a phone that she uses to conduct her affair?

I suggest you cut hers off, and let her know why you did ("I will no longer use our family's money to help finance your afffair.")

It's enabling. Are there any other ways she is squandering marital assets? Gifts for OM? Clothing? Jewelry? Cosmetic surgery? Other?

Puppy

Nothing that I've seen...and I've been checking our bank accounts closely. W actually has a decent job so the impact of cutting her off financially wouldn't be as much as in some M's.

I can't cut off her cell phone. She's the main account holder & writes out the bills. I don't even have access to see our phone usage because it's all under her name & she has the billing code. So right now, she can look at our phone usage but I can't. I can't even look at my own, which is ridiculous.