Confronting the OM's W - pros & cons

[Hope4us]

I agree completely with exposing to OMW. But I wouldn't contact OM. First, he's scr*wing your wife, do you think he's going to care what you say to him? Second, if he gets word of your plan to contact his W, he's going spin some b.s. story to her before you do and then you've lost that ally.

And if you're going to expose to OMW, do not, DO NOT, tell your W you're going to do it ahead of time.

And like Puppy said, SHE WILL BE LIVID. You need to remain calm. Just remember this line as she spews things like you'd never believe at you....."She deserved to know what was going on in her life". And when she bit*hes some more, say "She deserved to know what was going on in her life". And then walk away.

It's one of the hardest things I ever did, but it was the beginning of the end of the A. I had to finally expose to my grown children which was the final nail in the A coffin. And yes, it took her a long time to get over what she considered my betrayal of her by telling OMW and the kids, but oh well, we're recovering nicely now and our marriage never would have made it without exposing, IMHO.

Good luck.