It turned out to be nothing. There were two phone #s on her cellphone billing, and I "knew" only ONE of them could be her new DGF (divorced girlfriend). I did a search on them, and one of them was registered to a name very close to a guy at her gym that i KNOW had the hots for her.
Well, BOTH #s turned out to be DGF's -- one home, one cell. Thank GOD I didn't confront her on it.
Don't get me wrong, she was, definitely (and she has admitted this) going out with this group of divorced women, and enjoying the attention from the men she was getting, and "feeling her way" in a world that she never really got a chance to explore. She went directly from living with her parents, to living with me when we got married, and so she never really did the single-scene thing. But she very quickly tired of it, and she is now more domestic than ever, preferring family stuff and her and me going out on dates.
It's almost like it was a VERY short-lived MLC, or maybe I was just not as aware as I should be and I was seeing the END of one, and had never really seen her two years of issues as being MLC-related? Not sure.
We're going to start going to MC, and have our first one set up next week, and we're looking forward to it. She KNOWS she has this "wild streak"/"bad girl"/wanderlust side to her, and she wants to learn how to safely explore that WITHIN her marriage, instead of having to look OUTSIDE of it. Cuz she knows she screwed up by having an affair, and she says she never, EVER wants to do that again. I think this is why our role-playing has become so exciting and edgy lately: we're trying to incorporate some of those "wanderlust"/"dirtygirl" things safely into our own intimacy.
