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I think it's easier for him to blame us both for getting to a point where he was comfortable going outside the marriage.


He may have made the choice, but let's be honest, something was wonky for him to get comfortable in making that choice.

You need to take ownership too.

It's like I explained it to D's: there are two adults involved in this and two to blame for it.

Is it more like you to do what you want or what he wants?