Going straight forward...antlers 5th thread.

[antlers]

Antlers, Could the legal procedings and your reaction be because you had some expectations? You have made some incredible positive personal growth. You are doing the work on yourself. Step back and detach, try viewing things like you are watching your family in a fishbowl. Try to imagine if the roles were reversed, how would you see things then?

The first step in reconciliation is letting go of negative feelings. Your wife isn't there yet. How is the new and improved Antlers going to handle this?

Cheers

Coach, the legal proceedings aren't because I had some expectations. My reaction to the legal proceedings could certainly be because I had...I wouldn't say expectations, but rather, hope. Hope, that I would get a second chance. I don't. Yes, I have made some positive personal growth...a lot of it. Yes, I have been, and will continue, doing the work on myself. I want to detatch completely, and not be affected by her or what is going on in her life at all. Just don't want to have any false hopes.

I don't yet know how I'm gonna handle it Coach! I've gotta do it though; I've gotta go through it. The Stockdale Principle and a quote that O'dog sent me are kinda my mantra right now.