Thanks for the comments guys. Only a minute to post so it'll be quick.

We had our date last night but alas, no massage. W wasn't feeling the best when we got home so it was a quiet night at home. We did share some nice conversations, etc and S17 was cracking us up. All in all it was a good night.

And at one point during dinner W said something about a training class at work that the guy I mentioned from the sub shop was leading and I looked her dead in the eye and said he made me nervous and "BE CAREFUL". W knew exactly what I was talking about and she gave me this look like "that'll never happen" and I so wanted to say 'you said that before with OM and look what happened', but I just didn't feel like the time was right, so I let it drop.

Anyway. I'll check out that thread when I get some time JAK. Thanks for the comments Doc. I've been following your sitch when I have time, but don't really have anything to add to the comments you've been getting. Strong, I just might look up that book. I agree that she's the avoider (if that's a word) in the relationship, but still trying to figure out how to get her to feel safe and open up to me like I NEED.

Talk to ya all soon.


Hope4us

Me - 49, W 49
S22 & S18
Dday 9/4/07
W claims NC 4/7/08
8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.