Trying to save my M. W not really trying though.

[etrain]

After successfully detaching/GAL'ing last night, I regressed bigtime this morning. When my W woke up sick to her stomach & vomiting...just like last time she went out "w/ coworkers", something just didn't feel right. While she was in the shower, I decided to check her car.

I found condoms hidden in the glove compartment.

I HAD to confront her...and I did.

I tried to approach it like you guys suggested...stopped her when she started to lie & told her it's disrespectful & I deserve the truth. I said I deserve the truth so I can have the info I need to go on w/ my life.

At first she "had no idea" how the condoms got there. C'mon, I'm not an idiot. It was like pulling teeth but she eventually admitted to an EA...says it's been going on for "a couple weeks". She's attracted to the OM and considered making it a PA...that's why she had the condoms. Said she just couldn't do that to me & it never got physical.

Took a LOT more for me to eventually get her to say who the OM is...the out of state coworker I discovered in the email exchange. I'm not sure I believe her. I think she was trying to come up w/ the "least hurtful" name, if that makes sense.
W said she's ashamed to admit the EA. I still think she's lying. When I confront her w/ "proof", she only admits to the least serious "offense". The email exchage I found was the first time they every got flirty. I found condoms but she never used any of them. Really hard to believe any of those things.

She claims the OM isn't in town & she really went out with other coworkers last night. I don't believe her. There's a call on her cell to a local, romantic-type restaurant...yet she claims the "group" went to a different restaurant. I didn't ask her about that but I'm considering doing some investigating to find out if this guy really is in town and if they went to that romantic restaurant. I have a feeling she was out on a "date" with OM while I was watching our S & I cannot allow that to continue.

Even after flat out asking her to be honest & not disrepect me or our family, I still feel like she's only giving me part of the story. We finished our discussion with her still wanting to S so she can get her thoughts together & decide what she wants to do. I have a feeling our conversation may have pushed her further away & she'll be speeding up the apartment hunting process.
But I deserve the TRUTH!