I think he nailed it too - now if only the spouses of everyone here could read it.
I sat in the hot tub last night (that's my best thinking place)and really considered my seeming needy/clingy etc. I believe it comes from not detaching properly. If I am 100% honest with myself, I can't say I have actually detached. I am trying to make it appear that I have, but not truly done so.
So...I will work on that and in combination creating more space between wife and I. While trying to be supportive and caring for my wife during her illness and other issues, my actions may come across as desparate actions to win her back. I need to find that fine line between "being there" and looking like a doormat who will do anything to win back his woman.
When I feel that I am doing all that properly, then that will be the correct time for a genuine apology - not just for the things I have done, but how they made my wife feel.
