Thank you Oz, have to say the R talk is a bit scary at the moment! H wants to go there and is showing it physically, but isnt quite ready to spit the words out yet.

He came up last night after I had gone to bed, he slept in the spare room and I popped in about 1am to check on him and had a cuddle, then went back to the big bed. In the morning he joined me in the big bed for coffee and we ended up ML, and it is ML not s*x and far more intimate than it has been in years. We chatted a bit and I said trying to avoid it sounding like R talk, that I wasnt sure where he was wanting to take this at the moment and he said neither did he, I wasnt worried he is at least being honest as I expect this is scaring him too.

We got breakfast and coffee and sat chatting, and he accidently made me feel very used and dumped. I just had to walk away and do something else, but he followed me to kitchen and said he was sorry he realised as the words left his mouth how unintentionally awful the must have sounded, and that he was looking to get to know me again and he wanted to spend time with me not just in bed. So that a big start for which I thanked him for being respectful and honest.

So I suppose we just take each day as we come now and see where it leads us. Of course any advise from those in the same situation and just starting R talks would be grateful or even point me in the right direction to any good threads.

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Once lost but now found and happily married again!