Hey Gucci, Puppy, RobX and Coach!

[BigJohn]

BJ, where are you at as far as D proceedings? Is WAW moving out, or plan on it?

Initial mediation completed as you know and appears right now that 50/50 custody is going to stick. My W is going to move out but her departure date has not been determined yet. Her job search continues along a at a slow uninspired pace, we have agreed in principle to use community resources to assist her in getting her own place which given her underemployment translates to buying her out of her share of the equity in the family residence.

We have a preliminary hearing in court later this month during which additional details will be hammered out. The only other issue on the table is a stay away order related to my W's OM- she and her L are countering that the stay away order should be unilateral and cover ANY significant other my W or I may get involved in, the stipulation being that only if a significant other may become a permanent fixture (i.e. marriage) then they can be introduced to the kids. I'm agreeable to this but I still want OM individually named since he is such a scumbag- even though it is unlikely that he and my W will become a permanent item while she resides in California with the kids.

My WAW is in a play world right now as well, but part of that is I provide for the family, so I feel she is taking advantage of that, and has no plans to move forward on her own.

Yes, my W also is in a "play world"- just tonight she was spending an inordinate amount of time on the computer shopping for new furniture for her new place which she has no money for at the moment. My thought was to suggest she help me research refinancing options instead- you know, put the horse before the cart- but I held my tongue and just walked away. It's sometimes hard to gauge exactly where my W's head is at, but she doesn't appear to be spending too much time in reality.