Glad to hear that. Always put your D 1st and you can't go wrong.
My sitchseems to be moving in the right direction. Pretty good weekend. Will just have to see how everything plays out. Still living life and having fun no matter what.
Atty called today back from calling the other day when X would not allow visitation to occur for weekend. I told her of the circumstances and also about the mandatory counseling that we so despirately need. She says she would speak to the X's atty.
How I would love to get out of all this atty stuff.
Had my D last night and loved every minute of it. She is growing so fast and it is so sad we are in this situation. My D is so precious. Probably biased opinion, but so sweet. I don't want my D to grow up in this situation with her mom acting this way. I really hope she is able to pull out of all this one day. for everyones sake.
Called to talk to D last night and she did not want to talk. lol She is just 2.5 so, it is humorous that she doesn't want to talk, but I want to know what is going one with her.
X did act halfway polite and decent. I just tried to keep it light conversation about the D by asking what she was/had been up to. I ended the conversation pretty quickly and told X I would let her go hang out with D.
I am continually amazed if she can say "bye" or "hello". Usually she will say "yes?" like what do you want or just hang up at the end w/o saying good bye or anything. Rude to say the least. Maybe another way she can show she is in control and can put someone down. Ouch it does hurt b/c it is so disrespectful.
But anyway she said bye last night. small victory and she goes back and forth saying or not.
So the approach here again is to continue to detach and work on myself. Hoping that in the meantime the X, WAS, etc. is working on themselves and might one day approach you to work on the R. Is this correct?
I know the LBSs should be concentrating on improving ourselves and not focusing on the WASs, but have some questions: How does a WAS make the transition to returning? What is the progression of coming back if they do? Is there some pattern that has been seen on here? If not married should we allow ourselves to get involved with OW? What if the WAS returns after another R is established OW? What is best if you have children (we have D2.5yrs)?
I pick up D this afternoon for my weekend. X always greets at the door and hands off D to me. She is going out of town through Monday and tells me I can have D longer through to Monday instead of usual Sunday. She wanted me to take off on Monday, but I have work and can't just take off. X's mom watches D during the day and should have no problem watching her on Monday too.
I guess I don't really trust what she does and what her alterior motives are. Hate to make life to much easy for her in all of this. But I do want to spend more time with my D, but can't do it at the expense of my work.
When I have to be around the X, it makes me so sad. Hurts my heart when I leave there. I want to work through all of this and it is going to be difficult on my D the longer we go through this. I do still care about my X a lot. Wish she could get beyond this stuff.
What do I do? Do you ever get over the feelings when you see them? Should you not want to get along and want to be together for the R purposes and D best interest?
It would be so much easier if u did not care. Does she care? Do she still have feelings for you? What is she thinking and will she ever be able to be more mature about all of this? Will we have to go through a lifetime of this? How long do I try to work it out with the X? What if I meet someone else? Should I still give priority to the x? OMG.. so many questions..
So it is the weekend and my D and I are hanging out. X is out of town till Monday. Time away from her makes me feel so much better. It is so difficult being around someone who does not care to make things better when they are that bad. Oh well.
Halloween is close by and still need to get a costume for the D. We will go tomorrow after church for sure.
Dropped off the D on Monday am with X's mom b/c I had to work. She keeps her during the day while X is working. X was out of town till last night and asked me if I wanted to keep her till Monday evening when she returned. I could not just take off like that, so I took the D back Monday am.
X just returned and now has sent me an email saying she has a work function this evening and wants to know if I want to keep my D.
I definately always want to keep my D, but don't want to be at X's beck and call to keep my D just to make her life easier.
So I decided to go and get my D. Ultimately it is about spending time with her. Just did not want to let the X feel like I was at her beck and call to accomodate her schedule.
Glad I was able to get D b/c I purchased her a halloween costume on Monday. I needed to make sure it fit and she liked it. Kind of tight, but I think it will work.
We went shopping and hung out for a little while. Before I could get home she was fast asleep. I was thinking how funny / ironic it was bc the X recently scolded me saying every time I return my D she is tired and sleeps and also hungry and eats lots. X asked is if I was feeding her and was I letting her take a nap. I told her we do stay on the go and she does get some rest. X told me how important it was for her to get her nap in and how I was just parading her around and not thinking about her (but myself). Once again seems like she is not walking the talk. lol
Dropped off the D this evening at 830 and the X was not even there. X's mother was there. Makes me cringe that I have to bring her back and she is not even there. Wow..
Make me think I could have kept my D longer if the X was not even going to be there. So much disrespect from her and her family.. I keep thinking how it was raining today and they just don't even invite you into thier house by the front door to pick up my D. Seems rude, inconsiderate and discrespectful.. It does kind of hurt..
