Mark,
Don't know if there is anything I can say to help you. Only thing I can think of is you sound like me two days ago. I felt the exact same pain and anger you are feeling now. Your wife crossed over a boundary you established.

You will feel better tomorrow or the next day. But for now, don't make any decisions or plans. Sit on your hands and don't make any additional contact with your W until you calm down.

Your not alone.

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Me-41
W-39
M-15 yrs T-17 yrs
D-12
S-9
S-8
B 5/08
S 1/09