Thanks for looking at my thread and thanks for your feedback. Your BF had to extricate himself from a relationship to return to you. THAT took energy. As far as I know my H is not in a relationship now but he has purchased a new home and spent a lot of money on a D attorney. In his eyes this may seem like too much to push back from, although filing a delay for the final D wouldn't cost much.
Oh well, took MIL to the dog park today. It was fun, so for now I'm feeling even keeled.
Thanks again for your feedback! Very happy for you and BF!